It's coming. The holiday season. It can be cozy and chaotic, especially for us, introverts. The unexpected interactions, the pressure to socialize, and the set expectations can be too much for us.
But there’s also space for peace and comfort in the middle of the social storm. It may sound impossible, but you can make this holiday season more suitable for you.
Here are some important reminders:
Honor your holiday boundaries
It's so important to recognize what energizes and depletes you. Here are some ways to protect your energy without missing out:
Discover Your Social Limits:
Think about the types of gatherings you’re most comfortable with. Are large family events overwhelming? Would smaller meetups feel more doable? Maybe you can plan to meet with only some members of your family, and excuse yourself before it gets chaotic.
Promise Yourself Some Quiet Moments:
Block out some downtime to read, rest, or watch movies. You deserve it.
Be Honest with Your Loved Ones:
If family or friends expect you to be part of every event, gently let them know your needs. You could say, “I’m excited to join, but might step out early if I feel drained,” can help set expectations without hurting feelings.
Seasonal Self-Care for Introverts
In my case, it's the simplest things bring the most comfort. How is it for you? Here are some ideas you can test out:
This means different things to different people. If it brings you comfort, that's all you need. Maybe a soft blanket, warm lighting, and a seasonal candle? Ah, already dreaming about it.
Have you ever tried quiet, mindful activities like journaling, deep breathing, or practicing gratitude? They might bring you the inner warmth you need.
Give yourself permission to spend time on activities that make you feel at ease.
How to Prepare for Social Gatherings as an Introvert:
Let's try to make the social events as gentle as possible. See if you can:
Planning and spending some quiet time before the event might be the "fuel" you need.
It's okay to take small breaks to catch your breath. Step outside for a few minutes or find a quiet corner if you need to reset.
I know saying "No" can be difficult. Especially when you don't want to upset anyone. Consider gentle responses like, “I’d love to join another time” or “Thank you for thinking of me; I’ll appreciate it, but this year I have other plans I've been looking forward to."
Seeing pictures of social gatherings on social media might make you feel like missing out. Remember: you can't miss out on something you wouldn't enjoy. If you want to spend time alone, honor that. Solitude can bring just as much joy and comfort as a social event.
This holiday season, remember that it’s okay to prioritize what feels right for you. Whether you’re embracing solitude, connecting with loved ones in small ways, or crafting personal traditions, taking care of yourself is the best gift you can give.
